Marriage and Family

Dewater 4

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that is may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29

One of the downfalls in me being a good husband is my mouth. I have said so many things over the years that hurt my wife. You would think that I could learn after the fifth or fiftieth time, but nope. There is just something that happens inside of me when I don’t get my way, or when I feel bad about a situation, or when I am angry over something that happened. Yes, something happens when I focus on… me. For me, most, if not all of my negative responses and words have come from me focusing on me. Talk about selfish! Talk about pride!

The scripture above is incredible! It is also very hard! Yet, if I as a husband would follow this every time I find myself getting ready to say a snide comment, I would not hurt my wife and our marriage would be happier. But that’s the problem, how can I follow it every time? I go back to the I. If I am focusing on myself, I will blow it every time and say things that are hurtful and destroying. But, if I focus on my wife (and the Word), I will better be able to see the right response that I should give so that I can build her up in that moment, rather than tear her down.

Divorce is a result of tearing each other down over a length of time. A happy and strong marriage is a result of building each other up over a length of time. Don’t think for a moment that you can’t achieve the latter. If you have spent most of your time tearing down, take action today towards spending all of your time in building up. It takes lots of work, but it is so worth it!

My encouragement for you this week: Say some words every day this week that build up your spouse!

Have a great week building your marriage!

Marriage Scripture

Ephesians 5:22-33