Marriage and Family
“And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man, and not wanting to disgrace her, desired to put her away secretly.” Matthew 1:19
When things don’t go your way; when you don’t get what you want; When your feelings are hurt…How do you react?
Marriage can be the most wonderful thing in the world. It can also be one of the most difficult things in the world. The person you have committed yourself to is and should be the most special person to you. Likewise, you want to be the most special person to him/her. Our words, our actions, and our thoughts are all connected when it comes to loving our spouse. Everything we say, everything we do, and every thought we allow ourselves to dwell on either work towards a very successful marriage, or towards a struggling marriage.
But that sounds like lots of work! It is! Having a great relationship is work. There’s a difference between have a great marriage and just living life together.
As for me, I’ve got some serious work to do. Furthermore, I’ve got much that I need to allow God to do in my heart in regards to how I react to my wife.
Take Joseph. Things were not going his way; he wasn’t getting what he wanted; it certainly hurt his feelings. And how did he react? Was he angry? For sure! Did he show his frustration? Most likely! Did he make himself feel better by shaming Mary? No! Joseph cared more about God and more about Mary than himself. He refused to disgrace her by only thinking about himself.
As for me, I want to be a husband like Joseph. I want to be a righteous man that thinks more about what God desires and what my wife needs than tend to my feelings.
My encouragement for us this week: Be a righteous husband or wife. Give thought to how God wants you to react to your spouse and then choose to do what’s best for them. A successful marriage will be the result!
Have a great week being a righteous spouse!